Whatever goal you seek, will require change by definition. But there are levels of change. You can change your environment, you can change your behavior, you can change your capability, you can change your beliefs and values, and you can change your identity, in that order.

The higher you go in instituting change, the more effective it is. As you can see, behavior is almost as low a change as you can make, and thus it is ineffective over the long term.

Sigma males are sometimes described as a blend of Alpha and Beta males because they have characteristics of both. Some call them “Introverted Alphas” because they are highly respected and demonstrate confidence and leadership without the narcissistic need to be validated by others.

I think a lot about what it means to be a man. We get all kinds of mixed messages about what’s masculine and manly and what isn’t. Our culture is confused about what it wants, there’s an overdue transition happening.

Getting sober has side effects I didn’t expect.

Becoming Your Own Hero is one of my favorite and most effective tools for achieving personal goals.

This week I was listening to a podcast and was suddenly taken aback by a phrase one of the hosts used. I had to rewind it and listen again to make sure I’d heard it right…

Regardless of what gives you anxiety, the truth is, at its root, anxiety symptoms are a specific set of physiological responses to stress that can be quantified and controlled.

Both my good and bad choices, with the perspective of time, have given me some insight into what it takes to make important decisions, and it is not what I see most people considering when they have tough choices to make. 

For the past two years, I’ve mediated almost daily, and I’ve found it has profound positive impacts in my daily life.

First, I believe the essences of masculinity revolves around providing security and protection for others, and that can and does take a lot of different forms.

How Jeff went from working in restaurants and struggling to make living to producing movies, creating content for companies like Google, NBC

The first thing to accept is that there are basically only two reasons people give compliments, either to genuine express admiration and appreciation, or in an effort to influence another person by ingratiating themselves through flattery.

Does this mean I failed? Yes and no. Yes, I failed to meet my goal, but also no, I have not failed because I have not quit….

We all have an idea of who we are, an internal set of traits we lump together as our identity. Identity includes everything from physical traits to behavior patterns, likes and dislikes, and beliefs about right and wrong, and about what we are capable of.

I remember on gloomy weekend when we went to Sears to buy a new washer and dryer. It must have been the early 1980’s, I was probably 10 or 11 years old.

The title “King” seems to get tossed around lightly in recent years, I especially hear it used by women referring to their male partners as “King.” In many cases I feel like the true weight and meaning of the word has been lost…

I have stated before, that humans evolved to cooperate rather than compete, and men in particular were meant to work together for the good of the community, rather than compete with each other as we are so often taught today. A man alone in the wild stands little chance of long term survival, yet a tribe can easily withstand the loss of a single individual, including its “alpha male” leader (a thing that doesn’t really exist in human cultures the way it does in animal groups.)